Unplugging Negativity – A Better Response (Part 3)
I have spent the last two weeks discussing the issue of negativity and the unfortunate trend we are seeing in our society. While there is very little we can do about people’s negativity. We can choose to create a better response when exposed to attitudes which are less than positive.
A great response to negativity is to simply smile. You would be amazed at how disarming a smile can be to others. You will also be amazed at how putting a smile on your face can disarm your own attitude and change your perspective.
Ron Gutman found research in the UK that discovered “a smile can provide the same brain stimulation as up to 2,000 chocolate bars.” Think of all the joy you can bring yourself without adding any pounds by just adding a smile to your face.
Maybe this is why Mother Teresa said: “I will never understand all the good that a simple smile can accomplish.” If we are going to learn to be more positive and practice positivity, it may all start with a simple smile. I challenge you today to put a smile on your face. See the difference it makes in your life, and how it affects everyone you come in contact with today in unplugging negativity.
You need to take more control of your thoughts, life, inputs and outputs and create a better mindset. I have heard negative people state “that is just the way I am.” This is absolute bull. While you may have a tendency to trend toward the negative. That is no excuse to simply live in this place without ever attempting to change.
You may not be able control many aspects of your environment, but you can absolutely control your response to them and how they affect you. Put yourself in a positive mindset to think more clearly and succinctly. You have control over your life, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop letting other people or circumstances dictate how you will feel or respond to any given situation.
One area you do have control over is what you are allowing into your life. Take some time to purge all the negative aspects of your life. Begin to make a list of those areas which are negatively effecting your life. Social media, news, friends, family, movies, TV, community, or magazines. Then begin to write out how these generally make you feel when watched or used.
Do you feel angry when you watch the news? Do you feel sad and insufficient when surfing social media? Are movies and TV draining you or putting you into a stressed mood? Family, friends, or relationships can also add to stress and negativity. While you may not be able to address all of these areas (i.e. family, friends, relationships) there are many areas you can ruthlessly purge from your life.
Take the time to do a negativity assessment and begin the process of purging those areas of your life which suck the positive life right out of you.
Gravitate Toward the Positive
It is entirely possible you have spent so much time in a negative mind-set you don’t know another way of living. If this is the case then spend time attempting to gravitate toward more life giving positive pursuits. Read success books, coffee with a good friend, or go pet a puppy. Who can be angry and negative when petting a puppy. (If you are under 18 please consult your parents first)
The purpose of this exercise is to fill space in your life with more positive pursuits. If your life is trending more positive you are not giving space to the negative areas. You are filling your life with more positive life and squeezing out space for anything negative. Find what makes you happy and gives life. Then spend more time pursuing those tasks over anything negative.
Life is too short to be angry and upset all the time. Or to let others manipulate your feelings because they cannot control their own. There is also no use in letting others dictate how you should feel on any given moment. Enjoy the most out of life, own your journey, and life a thriving life by eliminating as much negativity as possible. You could dramatically transform how you see life and how others see you.
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