It’s Time to Change the Narrative of Your Story!
If you grew up in Western Culture you more than likely were exposed to a certain narrative. It is the narrative which draws us into a story and makes us read, go to movies, and watch television. The story where the hero of the story overcomes an obstacle and saves the day. The story of the knight slaying the dragon, the guy getting the girl, the heroine saving the day. We long to see the individual rise up, against all odds, and become the person they were destined to be.
This narrative makes for great fiction. But you cannot always “overcome” the obstacles and challenges placed before you in life. The reality is not everyone has this luxury of making such a change. Yet no one talks about how to live life otherwise. How do you live life with pain, disability, mental illness, PTSD, or a disabled child in this narrative?
There are two immediate problems with this narrative:
1) The first problem is if you don’t overcome your challenge, then you are viewed as a failure. If you cannot slay the dragon, or worse, cannot even get up to go slay the dragon, then you are viewed as a failure. Yet this is so false. You are not a failure because you could not live up to other people’s story, dreams, or expectations.
2) The second problem is this narrative causes individuals buy into the “one day when…” lie. One day when I am better, when I have more money, not in as much pain, find better medication, or whatever the excuse might be. Then I will go slay the dragon. This narrative causes you to put your entire life on hold until you reach some magical moment which will make you ready for the journey.
But this is the beautiful thing about your story, it is yours to change or rewrite. And it is time to change the narrative of your life. To live out a new story which starts where you are the hero, who uses your specific strengths, overcoming your specific obstacles, on your journey.
When you change the narrative you:
Become the Hero
When you change your narrative, you make yourself the hero of your “current” story! It isn’t you are not strong enough, pretty enough, smart enough, or need to wait until you are better. The awesome part is you are who you are now. You can still be the hero of your story; you just need to change the story. Stop chasing after everyone elses dreams and even your old antiquated dreams and begin dreaming new bigger dreams.
Your life could be so much more amazing than you ever imagined, if you can learn to rewrite your story. You do have amazing gifts to offer, you do have an amazing talent people need to see. But you have been stuck in an old story written for someone else. Think about what is possible, dream a bigger dream, and insert yourself as the hero of a bigger story.
When you change the narrative you also begin the process of optimizing life. When you eliminate the “one day when…” lie you begin to make the most of today. This allows you to optimize your life. Take an honest look at your life, purpose, dreams, choices, and situation and begin to make specific intentional choices which make the most of your current circumstances.
Just because life did not turn out as you planned does not mean life is bad. Life is just different, and different is fine. You simply need some time to figure out how to live life with the new narrative. You will fail, make mistakes, and miss the mark. But that is fine, this is all in the process of creating a new and exciting narrative for your life.
Excuses will constantly and consistently derail you from your journey. You can tell yourself and convince yourself they are valid, and your excuses may be valid. But not one excuse will ever move you closer to living an extraordinary life in your current circumstances. Changing the narrative will force you to eliminate the excuses in your life. Whatever your fear, it needs to be eradicated so you can move forward with your amazing story.
Your excuses are what keeps you from changing the narrative. Excuses are what makes you believe the “one day when…” lie. But most of your excuses are created because you are trying to live in the old narrative of someone else’s life. When you begin the process of writing your own narrative, for your own circumstances, you eliminate those excuses which previously had hindered your ability to thrive on your own journey.
Build a Plan
The old narrative causes you to wait until you meet certain conditions before you proceed with life. And this is a problem. This causes you to simply drift through life. You go with the flow, take whatever is handed to you, and limit your pursuits because you are waiting for something to happen. But when you change your narrative to live life on your terms you are giving your life purpose and direction. And purpose allows you to build a plan from your current position instead of where you hope to be one day.
When you live life on your terms because you changed the narrative you have been given a point on a map. With that point you now have the ability to plot a course to reach your destination. You are fighting your dragon, with your sword, on your terms. Because you had the ability to build a specific plan to reach your destination.
The last attribute you gain my changing the narrative of your story is the ability to rage on! You can live an extraordinary life regardless of your circumstances. You no longer have to wait for your unicorn to arrive. This is your narrative now and you get to define your hustle to rage through life on your terms.
It is never too late and you are never too far down the hole to begin your journey. Regardless of your circumstances, take the time to rewrite the narrative of your life so you can be the hero. The world needs more heroes, what is stopping you? Isn’t it time for you to become the person you were destined to be?
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