A Ragingpreneur understand this journey is not be traveled alone. Seeking, cultivating, and maintaining relationships is key to your success not matter what your definition.
But the problem is we need relationships. When we are suffering we need them even more. They are not something we can push aside during trying times, but we must diligently pursue with what little energy we can muster. In order to accomplish this task there are 5 different ways we can maintain our own relationships when a limitation turns our life upside-down.
Relationships will not simply happen. In the beginning it may be easy, but to maintain them takes work and you will need to be intentional with them in order to keep them moving forward. You can accomplish this step by doing a quick evaluation of your relationships and putting them into categories. There are three basic places we have room for relationships; close, casual, and ceasing.
You know those people who build you up, give you life, and can push you further. These are the relationships you want to cultivate and be very intentional about. Be purposeful in getting together with them, growing the relationship, and making it beneficial to both of you. The second group are the casual relationships. This group consists of people you enjoy, they may be long time friends, but not a place where you can exert much energy. Put these on the back burner. Check-in every once in a while through email, Facebook, or even a coffee. But since your limitation does not allow for an overload of energy make sure you are not investing too much of your energy with this group.
The last group involves the people you need to cease meeting with and break ties. You have people in your lives which suck the energy out of you. Do not be afraid to sever ties with this group. You may not have to break ties in an official capacity, but if you have people in your life who only take, then you need to stop being around them. You do not have the energy to deal with these people and they are doing nothing to move you forward in the pursuit of your life or goals. Evaluate this group carefully and take the necessary steps to ensure you are focusing your attention and energy in the relationships which are meaningful and useful in your life.
Once you have defined your close relationships then do not be afraid to give them permission. What this means is you need to be honest with them about your circumstances. This is not a gripe session, even your closest friends can only take so much complaining. This is letting them know what your circumstances look like, how your limitation affects you, and your struggles.
Once you have laid this out them give them permission. Give them permission to speak into your life, tell you stop complaining, keep you focused on your goals, and have them reach out to you. When you are living with a limitation you need as many people in your corner to fight with you as possible. Most close friends want to fight with you and for you, but do not understand how to help. Lay it out for them in a very clear fashion so they understand how they can not only help you, but speak into your life where you need it the most. Sometimes all you need is a good butt kicking to keep moving forward. Do not be afraid to ask!
You can learn more about how to intentionally engage your relationships with this free eBook The Ragingpreneur and Relationships. Or you can check out our Ragingpreneur Coaching program to learn how to intentionally engage your relationships for maximum impact.
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