Your Resolutions are only Tasks if You Don’t Have Purpose!
Ah, the most wonderful time of the year. The post Christmas realization you ate too much, you spent too much, and overall did a horrible job of taking care of yourself and balancing your life. But that is alright, New Year’s is around the corner and you get to hit the reset button. Another year to make new resolutions and create a new you. Because this year is going to be the best year ever. Right?
If you review the list below these were the top 5 New Years resolutions for 2015. If you are honest at least one, if not all, are probably on your list. Because resolutions are about making life better, living better, and feeling better about yourself.
Top 5 New Years Resolutions:
1. Lose Weight
2. Get Organized
3. Spend Less, Save More
4. Enjoy Life to the Fullest
5. Stay Fit and Health
But you are going to fail! I’m not attempting to be mean to speak to your inability to finish a goal. But statistically only 8% of the population ever complete their New Year’s resolutions in any given year. It is simply a statistical fact you will not meet your goals in 2017. With this in mind, the question becomes “why will you not complete your goals?”
While there are many reasons one does not complete there resolutions for any given year. There are three reasons most individuals will not attain their prescribed goals. They are the main reasons you do not complete your resolutions and specific ways you can meet them this year.
1) No Purpose
One of the major reasons resolutions fail is they are not tied to a greater purpose. You want to lose weight, get your finances in order, or exercise more because you think it is the right thing to do. Or you think these are the steps to take in order to make you a better individual for the coming year. They are tasks or resolutions we think we must attain, but since they are not tied to a greater purpose they are just a task and become unrealistic.
“Psychology professor Peter Herman and his colleagues have identified what they call the “false hope syndrome,” which means their resolution is significantly unrealistic and out of alignment with their internal view of themselves.”
Without a great purpose in achieving your goals your resolutions are simply tasks. And tasks without purpose will eventually be pushed aside. The first roadblock you encounter will derail your task because of your false hope in achieving your goal. But if you take the time to have a better internal view of yourself and define your purpose. Then all of your resolutions and goals are tied to a greater purpose. The greater purpose gives meaning to all your are attempting to achieve and escalates your success rate exponentially.
2) No Plan
Even if you define your purpose and attach all of your resolutions to your purpose, you will still fail if you do not have a plan. How are you going to lose weight? How are you going to get organized or spend less? If you don’t have a plan, you will fail. You cannot eat better, exercise, or attain financial security without a plan. There are too many distractions in this world and there will always be something else to do other than work on your goals. And most of the time you are committing to a resolution because it was not something you wanted to do last year. In essence you need to force yourself to stay on track and hold yourself accountable.
“You need a plan to build a house. To build a life, it is even more important to have a plan or goal.” – Zig Ziglar
This is why a plan on how you are going to achieve your goals is vitally important. A plan let’s you see the path clearly to keep you on track. Planning gives visibility to when you are going off track. And let’s you understand ahead of time what is expected of you. If you are honest with yourself, how many times are you going to go to the gym if you don’t know what you are going to do when you arrive? What will happen when you are running late and did not have a meal prepared?
This is where it is important to streamline your goals. Once you attach a plan to your goals you may realize some of your goals are unrealistic with your current life. The planning process itself can be very revealing in what you want to accomplish and how you will accomplish your goals.
3) No Accountability
The last, and probably most prominent, reason you will fail in reaching your resolutions is you go at it alone. You attempt to diet and exercise on your own. You try and manage your finances, organization, or exercise plan on your own. When you go at it alone you lose motivation quickly and you have no one to hold you accountable when you start to veer off course. This is where an accountability partner or coach can be vitally important.
“most of us already KNOW WHAT TO DO… BUT DON’T DO WHAT WE KNOW. A life coach is someone that gets you to do it. They’re all about taking massive action.”
We all know we should not eat the donut, but do it anyway. When items comes up for sale we buy them even though we don’t have the money in our account. But if we know at the end of the week or month we have to look someone in the eyes and tell them what we did, we are less likely to lose focus on our goals. Then there are the large goals we may be shooting for; writing a book, getting a promotion, changing careers, or starting a business. All very lofty goals which are difficult at best when attempting alone.
This is where a coach can help you write a plan, give you assistance in being realistic about your goals, and provide guidance in areas you may not even see. No matter where you are in life or what you are attempting to achieve you need a coach. Your chances of success become much greater when you chose to not go at it alone and seek guidance from someone who has been there before.
If you truly want to make 2017 the best year yet, then make sure you are finding your purpose, creating a plan, and using a coach to help you achieve your goals.
If this sounds like you and you want to achieve something big in 2017 then I have a program for you. I am putting together a 1-time offering of the 12-week SPRINTS Method of finding your purpose, creating a plan, and achieving your goals. If you want to be apart of this pilot program then contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information. Let’s make 2017 the best year yet!
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