Stop Adulting and Be an Adult!
Remember the times when you were just an adult, and it was a naturally occurring event which happened with age and maturity? Not something you aspired to be only when it was convenient, or some great accomplishment in life.
Unfortunately, nowadays we have made being an adult a verb. Something you do on occasion when you feel like it, instead of a defining noun of who you are. We have made adulting a term that garners laughter—we have it emblazoned on t-shirts, coffee mugs, and memes.
When Adulting is a Choice
When we make being an adult a choice, it usually ends with mixed consequences. Because we have made this natural progression in life somewhat optional, we skipped steps that would have otherwise properly prepared us to live a more thriving life.
This lack of acceptance of our own responsibility, or the lack of personal accountability, is being manifested in negative behaviors. Such as immaturity, disrespect, entitlement, increased selfishness, and extreme negativity, which serve as poor examples for the next generation.
Skipping the Process
This, in turn, prevents individuals from maturing and progressing in a natural manner, and consequently accepting the next stages in life appropriately. Without this proper foundation, how can anyone adequately prepare for all the challenges of this modern age?
Our movement from childhood, teenage years, young adult, and into adulthood is a natural progression. Where growth and maturity should be happening at each stage to prepare us for the next. For thousands of years, young people completed communal rites of passage through ceremonies to symbolize their transition from one stage of life to the next.
You knew from an early age what would be expected of you at each level. When you reached a particular age, either through an individual rite of passage with family or with the community, you left the old ways of thinking and living behind, and moved forward onto the next stage.
If we expect any type of change from this current way of thinking, two distinct and separate actions need to occur.
First the older generations needs to accept their responsibility to training up the younger. Your “Golden Years” are not meant to be spent selfishly spending time playing Bingo or golf. They should be intentional times of instruction to the next generation on what it means to be men, women, and yes adults. Parents, aunts, uncles, friends, and anyone else in the community who can contribute should make a conscious effort to provide proper guidance. To let these young men and women know when it is truly time to leave childish things behind and accept their responsibility as an adult. If they are never taught, they are never going to know any different.
The younger generation needs to accept their own responsibility for their lives. Expecting other people to tell you how to live and make life easier for you has never worked out in the history of mankind. Have you received a raw deal? Absolutely, you have been failed on many levels. But that does not give you the right to simply sit down and blame everyone else for your problems. Life, and your future, will only change when you choose to make an honest and intentional change. This one step could be the greatest transformation you make in your own life. And put your light years of your peers if you choose to make a difference.
Stop adulting and choose the Thrival Life by being the person you were meant to be.
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