The Necessity of Flexibility
The success of any endeavor you pursue will be related to the flexibility you provide yourself. While many traits are lauded in the process of promoting a product, self-improvement, or learning to hustle more effectively. If you do not apply flexibility into the equation your failure in any area of pursuit will come through frustration.
My greatest failure came from my inability to be flexible. Even though I was living in chronic pain the only way I knew how to succeed was to keep up with my peers. But this was a hallow chase. I was not like my peers, I did not have the energy, stamina, or drive to compete on the same stage. Yet I still attempted to move forward and make progress. The end result was mind-numbing frustration due to my inability to give myself grace. I was unable to acknowledge I was not like those around me and be flexible in my life, career, and relationship to function in an effective and efficient manner.
Here are 5 reasons you need to be flexible in all your pursuits, regardless of your circumstances:
Flexibility allows you to take a realistic look at your life. Take an honest look at your limitations and circumstances. Then see how those effect your life, career, and relationships. In understanding how you best function you can be realistic with your pursuits. Flexibility allows you to not only give yourself the grace to experiment, but be realistic about what you do pursue.
In my inability to be flexible with my current circumstances of pain, I was not being realistic about my life, career, or relationships. I was living under some outdated idea of what my life should be life. Which caused me to run in a downward spiral. Once I began to be realistic about my circumstances and situation I could be flexible in my pursuits. This single act eliminated much the frustration I was experiencing in my life.
Flexibility allows you to be in the game for the long term. Rigidity can be a killer. You do need to be disciplined in your pursuits and executing against your goals. But not to the point it breaks you apart. If your circumstances or limitations are disruptive to pursuing your goals then take the time to effectively work within those limitations. In doing so have a long-term mindset. Don’t look at your current circumstances, but where you eventually want to be. The reality is it may take you longer than the average individual but you are still reaching and attaining your goals. The idea is to apply longevity to your pursuits.
In executing against my goals, I was functioning in a small enclosed box of my current circumstances. I couldn’t look beyond my own failures and misses because of my inability to keep up with the crowds and it eventually brought everything I had worked for over the years crumbling down. My rigidity had not allowed me to take a long-term look at my life and pursuits and plot out what those would look like over time. If I had learned to be flexible I could have stayed in the game instead of having to throw in the towel.
When you are flexible with your situation, or circumstances, you are taking a more holistic approach to your life. In peering into every aspect of your life, career, relationships, and soul you are casting a brighter light into each of these areas. The end result is having a greater vision in your pursuits, what to avoid, and how to properly navigate your life based upon your circumstances. Your vision will allow you to stay on the path and pursue your goals despite the challenges and roadblocks which will come your way.
My greatest obstacle I could not overcome was living against an outdated vision. I had been using a vision from a younger, whole self. A body which was fully functioning and full of energy. When my circumstances changed I never attempted to update my vision based upon my current situation. But when I got to a point of recalibrating my life and updating my vision, I began to see my path more clearly. I also allowed myself the flexibility to side-step the obstacles which might be placed in my way along my journey.
If you are in a position where you are not allowing yourself flexibility or giving yourself grace, the end results will always be frustration. You will increase your stress and anxiety in a fruitless pursuit defined by other people in different circumstances. Flexibility inserts some much-needed calm in the storms of life. When you have taken a realistic look at your life, limitations, and pursuits and have learned to be flexible in these circumstances. You can learn to avoid the pitfalls of frustration which might normally come your way. Frustration will never contribute anything positive to your pursuits or goals.
While attempting to pursue outdated and unrealistic goals I was becoming increasingly frustrated. My inability to be flexible was like a dam backing up all this frustration with no release or outlet. The end result was an explosion. In learning to be flexible with my life I have learned to let situations come as they may. Getting frustrated, angry, resentful, or bitter serves no purpose to my life or those around me. Learning to be flexible and letting the calm overcome me is an extremely transformational exercise in pursuit of a life on your terms.
Flexibility has a great side-effect of providing direction. When you learn to be flexible in your pursuits, you are learning to say “no” to activities and expectations which will not align with your circumstances. The end result of this process is a clear direction will begin to emerge. This direction will allow you to say “no” to even more activities, projects, expectations, or pursuits than before as you begin to refine your overall purpose. If you are not in pursuit of your own direction then you are assisting someone else’s purpose.
In living with chronic pain, I spent many years promoting someone else’s purpose. It was extremely draining on me physically and mentally. The pursuits I found to be life giving were only being done in my free-time and were overshadowed by other organization’s purpose. When I made the transition to pursing my passions full-time it was life altering and life giving. Pursuing my own purpose and putting my energies to a life-giving endeavor is a reason to live. What helps me maintain this direction is being flexible to what comes my way and giving myself the grace to fail.
No matter where you are in life or your pursuits, flexibility is a necessary tool you need to always have ready to utilize. The alternative approach will always lead to destruction and despair. But a flexible life is a life worth pursuing.
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